Entitled woman takes sister-in-law's kitchen equipment while moving house, gets annoyed when she takes it back at housewarming party: 'This included my spices, baking goods, bowls, cups, and cooking utensils'

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Ally Perry • Writer and Editor
Jul 31, 2025 9:00 PM EDT

Few things make a person more acutely aware of personal property than living with a certain kind of roommate. Even the most generous and willing to share can find themselves counting costs and locking cupboards when they end up cohabiting with somebody who has sticky fingers. It is amazing what certain individuals can feel entitled to simply by virtue of sharing the same space, especially if they have a vendetta.

You might think that such people moving out would be a happy ending for such a situation, but sometimes, it can only make matters worse. They can be liable to take things with them that aren't theirs, and there will not necessarily be an opportunity to get those belongings back. It can be a significant expense, as well as a violation of trust. It goes to show that you have to be careful who you live with, even if you are close to them.

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    AITA for using my brother's housewarming to re-stock my pantry and kitchen?

    For context, I, my partner, my brother and his fiancé all were living together in a house. We all paid equal rent. We lived together for a year, we had all agreed on two years, but in January my brother and his fiance informed us they would not be renewing their lease. Everyone in the house had a good relationship besides myself and my brothers fiancé. I got some insights into their relationship that I had no previously and didn't love how she treated my brother with a lot of things. This ended
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    In March they let us know they would be leaving a month earlier than expected because they bought a house. They said they would pay the rent but would not be paying utilities for the month they would move out. We agreed and everything seemed to be sorted. When they were packing I noticed a lot of my things had been going missing. It started with a pot, to which when I asked my brother he said he thought it was his and would bring it back, which he did. Then it started to be more things (they pac
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  • When her brother and his fiancée took numerous items that she owned from their shared kitchen when they moved into their new home, one woman decided to take matters into her own hands at their housewarming party. When they didn't have the items waiting for her when she arrived, she decided to go through their kitchen and find the things that had been stolen.

    After the party, the couple was upset at her behavior, and they accused her of acting immaturely. She wanted to know if she was in the wrong.

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    They did their big move a few weeks ago and over the course a few days I noticed a lot of my stuff was missing. This included ALL my spices, my baking goods, some bowls, cups, and cooking utensils and some other smaller things. When I asked my brother about everything he said the same thing he does, but said I would have to wait for these things since they were busy unpacking and preparing for their housewarming.
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    to be honest, I was very frustrated, and totally over trying to figure out what of my stuff was missing. So when I showed up to the housewarming i was expecting a pile of my stuff waiting for me. There wasn't and I asked my brother and he said we could deal with it later. While everyone was outside I took it upon myself to look through their pantry, shelves, and drawers and pulled out everything that was mine. They had unpacked all my stuff and it was all organized with their things, and to me i
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    I got an angry text from my brother (though I know it was really form his fiancé, she doesn't like confrontation and ALWAYS sends him to talk to me when she has a problem) saying I was disrespectful of their housewarming and I acted very immaturely. He called my mom and my mom called me and asked why I felt the need to do it right then, to which I told her I had already waited almost two weeks for my stuff back. My mom didn't really seem to pick a side, she just said we were both being weird. My
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    Commenters felt the behavior had been a reasonable reaction.

    SnooWords4839 NTA - You should tell everyone she isn't invited back into your home because she steals things that don't belong to her.
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    BluebellJaadeess Exactly OP didn't raid their pantry they took back what was literally theirs it's not theft it's called cleaning up after moochers. If someone steals your groceries and then gets mad you want them back maybe they shouldn't be invited to housewarmings or houses in general.
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    RogueDIL NTA. That's not a mistake, that was their plan. They stole from you. You took your (only) opportunity to get your stuff back.
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    pixie-ann NTA you would never have seen all of your items returned if you hadn't taken charge. Please tell me they no longer have keys to your home?
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    TracyChristina Good for you. I would've done the same thing.
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    Different One265 I would have taken all my stuff back and accidentally moved the rest of the stuff around.
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    ahleksh They are thieves so treat them like one. After getting all your things, cut contact with them and don't let them in your house ever again.
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    Jeepers Creepers74 NTA. I kept waiting for the part where you totally ruined the party doing this; it seemed nobody even noticed. You shared kitchen shelves with these people just a few weeks earlier--that's how they ended up with all this stuff. If you violated their privacy by doing this, then they violated yours first (not to mention trust). your
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    AgeLower1081 NTA. the stuff belonged to you. It's very annoying to start cooking and then realize that some of your equipment is missing. Your brother's fiance gets a chance to experience this. I bet that if you checked the linen closet that you would have found a blanket or two. Plus, they are getting married: their bridal/.marriage registry can include requests for replacements
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    Vivid-Farm6291 She should be lucky you didn't return the favour and take some of her belongings. She would have completely melted through the floor if you had. The audacity of taking your own belongings back. Really you did them a favour and helped them out, now it's one less job for them. ΝΤΑ
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    phdoofus "I'm not welcome back? Whoa! Don't threaten me with good time!"
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    JWJulie It's your stuff. They are essentially complaining at having to return stolen goods. If they didn't want it done at the party then they should have sorted it out ready for your arrival.
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    Patient_Gas_5245 NTA, they stole your stuff because they didn't want to buy their own stuff. Where I live, it would be either petty theft or grand theft, especially with pots and pans, bake ware and the cost of replacing spices including flour and sugar. You just took back what they stole and they know they stole it.
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    pigandpom They had your stuff all organised in their pantry. They had no intention of giving it back. So you did what any normal person would do, simply took it back while you were there. the fact they would take things they knew were yours and would only return them when confronted shows they knew what they were doing.
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    Shieby1234 Was it petty?: yes Was it an appropriate response?: also yes They had zero intention to give your stuff back IMO, but it was also very kind of you to save them time by sorting the things out yourself. So, in the end they got to enjoy their housewarming and you just helped them out by saving them time later. They should be thanking you OP.
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